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First and foremost, we are a supportive community of diverse ideas and beliefs. We are not a community of a single forced perspective.
D/s-LTC is about building respect back into our relationships and we expect everyone on this website to be respectful in their communication. We will disagree at times and the blog posts bear this out; however, we treat each other with respect and acceptance of their differing views.
Dominance and submission (D/s) is a lifestyle where one person is given a level of control of another to lead them in their life. There is a close relationship between D/s and BDSM (kinky play); however, while BDSM deals with a wide array of kinks, pleasures and activities, D/s deals with the interactions, decision making and communication between the individuals involved in the D/s. In traditional BDSM:D/s interactions, the D/s is the initial relationship that brings the individuals together.
In contrast, D/s-LTC is an online social community focused on individuals (primarily couples) who have had a long term committed relationship for a period of time before exploring into the world of D/s. The direction of this website is to supply information to the D/s-LTC community from both the Dominant and submissive perspectives and to be focused on the needs of this subset of the BDSM community.
D/s-LTC is not a website to find Dominants or submissives. In fact, the quickest way to be removed from this website is to proposition another Dominant or submissive member to enter into a relationship. This website is about helping to protect its members' long term relationships which are the foundation of their D/s. Many of our members have children, careers, parents and other aspects that could be seriously injured if their relationship were to fail. Entering into a D/s relationship can be an awesome experience (as it has been for us and many of our friends) where you can recapture the romance passion and energy your relationship had years ago.
Blogs and Guides - D/s-LTC administrators and members have been down the path of adding a D/s component to their existing long term relationship. And in our discussions, it has become apparent that most D/s relationship take the same course in the early stages. Here are some of the examples of different stages a D/s-LTC takes in its development:
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Welcome to the Ds-LTC website. This is a safe place for married and long term committed couples to find information, friendship and thoughts from others in a D/s relationship. We try to add perspectives of the Dominant and submissive to each blog post to give more depth to the conversation.
Over time there are struggles between the people in a Ds relationship looking at if they are getting back as much as they are putting into the relationship. It is important that you take the time to be honest and open in a supportive manner to work through these times of imbalance.
A long term Ds relationships are about consciously focusing on and changing the relationship dynamic. While we logically understand our desire to fill our Ds roles, in the moment our emotional vanilla response rules the day. It takes both the Dominant and the submissive to conciously recognize their emotional responses and lean into their Ds role when their partner might be leaning out.
We all have methods of dealing with stress and conflict that we have learned over years. This is particularly true when looking at our long term relationships. You know your partners buttons! Recognizing your learned subconscious response to conflict is key to growing your Ds dynamic.
At the basis of a D/s relationship is the question in your heart of whether you get pleasure from pleasing your partner? If you really are just in the relationship for yourself, then D/s probably isn't going to be right. If, however, you find that something inside you lights up when your partner laughs, smiles or is generally pleased then D/s might add a new deeper dynamic to your relationship.